Coastal Maine Maternity, Newborn, and Family Photographer Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n

Rest. Hustle. Rest. Hustle. 

Honestly, there are times that I have just simply felt really confused about the two.  I feel bombarded at times about which of these should be priority in both my life and business. Whether or not Hustle or Rest is the greater of the two seems to constantly change. Do you ever find that to be true as well?

Hustle sort of became this cool kid’s word in the last year or so. The whole, ‘put your head down, say yes to every opportunity, wake up early and stay up late, learn this platform, learn that system, blog more, blog better, launch this product, start this workshop’…almost as if those who were in need of hustling simply needed the affirmation that it was ok, and that they weren’t alone. That others out there were entreprenuer-ing too, and just as darn exhausted as they were. (I know I have been there.)

Then towards the end of last Fall I started to see less marketing of the hustle, and more on the concept of Rest. Which makes sense since the end game of only hustling is always crashing in a deep, passed out sleep somewhere. We hustled hard. Now it’s time to rest. 

But then I started to feel torn. If I rest, if THAT becomes more important now, will I not lose everything I just hustled for? Won’t every late night with the laptop be wasted if I stop running already? If I unplug from social media from a weekend, will I lose all my followers? Will my inbox just be filled with unsubscribers if I take a vacation? If I rest?

I found myself frustrated in what seemed to be a CHOICE.
It was seemingly a choice of ONE or the OTHER.

You could:

A. Rest- take days outside away from the office, plan family vacations, have shorter work hours, meet more friends for coffee, say no to conferences/workshops/speaking/publication opportunities, delete your social media apps, and all in all be more present with the ones you love.

or

B. Hustle– do the work, get up early and stay up later, challenge yourself to learn new platform building tools, commit yourself to launching a new product, a new blog series, a new workshop, say yes to every opportunity that fills your inbox, grow your followers, increase your profits, support your family’s finances, and always be one step ahead of anyone else.

What doesn’t seem to be shouted from any rooftop lately- is how to do both well. How your hustle could actually add to your rest, and not take away from it. How your Rest could actually add to your hustle, and not take away from it.

Finally, I have come to find that that balance lies in one single word that I am personally committed to pursuing more and more of….and that word is INTENTION.

What if I propose to you, that intention is actually the key to doing both well. Because I don’t know about you, but I need to do both. If I do not hustle, I will not make it as a business. Being self-employed, running your own financially sustaining business-  is really HARD WORK.  And if I do not Rest, I will quickly burn out, hate the job I once loved so much, and be the worst version of myself to the ones who matter most. I need room for both, together. Not one or the other. And I am finding that in order to not have to choose, I have to plan both with careful intention.

My hustle needs to be intentional. Which means I am looking ahead, and asking myself, why do I run this business? Where do I want to be in 1 year, 5 years, or 80? And what can I work on today that will get me closer to that? And likewise, what will NOT get me closer to that? What are the things that everyone else seems to be buzzing about, that are NOT necessarily a good fit for me to be focusing so much time and energy on? What is my priority today? What is my priority tomorrow? I can’t hustle on everything. I can’t DO everything, or BE everything to everyone. Every single task that I spend time on each day, should fit into my own intentional business (and life!) goals. And sometimes, that means saying no to really great opportunities.

Because my rest must also be intentional. This past Christmas, I intentionally decided I was taking two weeks off at the end of the year. This meant that in the weeks leading up to this vacation, I had to be very strategic about what tasks deserved my time to make this vacation possible. A popular printed magazine reached out to me two days before my vacation was scheduled to begin, asking me to contribute an article & feature that would be incredible for my educational platform, and get my work in front of new potential clients. It was a fantastic growth opportunity for my business. Did it fit into my intentional hustle and get me closer to the goals I set for myself? Definitely. But it also interfered with the intentional time of rest I had committed to.

Unfortunately, I didn’t have time to contribute something wonderful for this magazine before my vacation deadline. Did I regret not moving forward with the feature? No, because that rest was much needed, and a commitment I had set for myself. Since deciding what intentional rest would look like for me, I have said no to some conference opportunities, while saying yes to others. I have said no to certain travel requirements, while saying yes to others. I have to say no to some of the weekly activities with friends, but I can yes to others. There is finally more balance. 

You see I am finding that when your hustle is intentional, it makes room for the rest. I can’t hustle- hustle- hustle until I pass out from exhaustion and hate everything and everyone. And I can’t rest so long that I am no longer running a profitable business either! I have to make intentional room for both in my every day.

So together as we look at the week ahead, I challenge you to spend some real time asking yourself how intentional you are really being with your time. Is every task on your “hustle” todo list moving you closer to where you actually want to be? Does your schedule this week make room for that intentional rest, so you can hustle smarter- and not harder? 

I don’t know about you, but I don’t think we should have to choose! What about you? I would love to hear your thoughts about Rest, Hustle, and Intention in the comments below! 

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Connecticut Film Maternity Photography by Maine Maternity, Newborn, and Family Photographer Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n

As a Maternity photographer, I am always keeping an eye out for current outfit ideas and sources for my clients. Maybe someday the fashion industry will understand the need for actual stylish pregnancy outfits, and that just because a woman is expecting, doesn’t mean she wants to wrap herself in loud, bright floral patterns. Normal neutrals anyone? 

So I thought today I would share a few links to great dresses for maternity pictures . Of course, these are just my own style preferences. I’m not really about the bare belly, with the open skirts blowing in the wind whilst the expecting mother stands in some river with a floral crown. Ok let’s be honest, I am not into that at all! That’s why I always remind photographers that there is enough clients for everyone out there, because everyone photographs with a style that is unique to them. For me personally, and the clients that I choose to work with, I always want to photograph an expecting mother with timeless style and elegant grace, in the hopes of creating what becomes iconic heirloom in her family.

One of the most important tips I have for you in finding the perfect maternity session outfit is looking outside of the “maternity” brands and lines. Thankfully the maxi dress style stayed around a good while, a style that often provides a good amount of give for the expecting mother, and many of my clients got away with that last year! I also really love the loose fitting, but still flattering, more “flowy” dresses, over the skin tight options out there currently. When good posing is used during a session, the kind of dress with a more draping fabric can bring such a romantic feel to the images- which I am a huge fan of!

Every photographer approaches a session with a different and unique shooting style. It is ALWAYS best to ask your own maternity photographer what to wear, as they may have a style that requires a different color palette than the ones I have mentioned here. These tips are specific to what works for my own maternity clients, and that also work well with my personal photography style.

If you are looking for the perfect dress for your maternity portrait session, here are a few recent options representing some different styles that I have recently come across:

Short Dresses:

ASOS Maternity Shift Dress with Flared Sleeve In Ponte (Black)  Currently on Sale for $18! Since this is a solid black, I would add a wrap to provide texture. 

ASOS Maternity Nursing Woven Dress with Overlay (Beige) Currently $57. I love this dress for an in-home maternity session. I would recommend pairing it with a wrap or slouchy sweater for a cozy feel as well. 

ASOS Maternity Wedding Ruched Panelled Midi Dress (Nude) Currently $112. Asos is a great place to shop around for maternity dresses, including this one here! The chiffon and panelling gives the dress texture, which is always what I look for in a great dress that will photograph well. This light nude/soft pinkish color is fantastic as well! 

Pink Blush Maternity Ivory Chiffon Bell Sleeve Maternity Dress Currently on Sale for $49!  I love how this dress is shaped along the hem, as well as the sleeves. The Chiffon fabric gives it a flowy, romantic feel, even though it is still a shorter cut. I think this dress would make a chic alternative to the traditional long maxi dress style. I can envision this dress to use in a quiet in-home session with bare feet- or dressed up with ankle boots for a downtown, style forward session. 

Forever 21 Contemporary Chiffon Trapeze Dress  Currently $30. This is a great fit for an in-home maternity session, especially paired with a sweater or chunky cardigan. This dress used to be available in white, which I personally would prefer over the blue, but paired with a lighter knit wrap this color could work. You can see how my past client Lauren McBride styled this dress on here blog HERE.

Kennebunkport Maine Maternity and Newborn Photographer Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i nLong Dresses:

ASOS Pleated Maxi Dress Currently $82. This is an example of a non-maternity specific dress that could totally work. I really love the texture that the pleats add to the skirt, and the rose color. 

ASOS Maxi Dress with Stich Shoulder Detail Currently on Sale for $42! This is a non-maternity specific dress but works well for maternity pictures, as you can see from this Pin showing the yellow color. For my style, I would stick to the softer pink. 

Free People “Always Dreamin’ Dress” Currently $88. This is another great example of how to look for a non-maternity specific dress. I love the Sea Foam color, especially for a coastal session! 

Free People “Fiona’s Maxi Dress” Currently $148. With a little adjusting, it looks to me like this maxi dress could work beautifully for a maternity session, especially if you were planning to have your pictures taken closer to the 6-7 month expectancy range. I would just slide the slit over and drape the skirt accordingly. Sometimes making the perfect dress work for a maternity session takes a little pinning and adjusting! I love all three colors available for this dress. 

Rent the Runway Badgley Mischka Glitz Gown Currently available for rent at $99. This is a popular dress, made well known by the talented photographer Jessica Lorren and this maternity session HERE. Rent The Runway is a great option for someone who wants a really great dress, but desires to keep their budget at a certain price point. There are many maxi dress options available! You just have to sift through all the really bright colors and loud patterns to find the good ones. 

9Seed Tulum Cover Up Dress (Sand) Currently $129. This semi sheer cover up dress was used in last Spring’s Fount Workshop for our maternity model, and we loved it! This is a great option for an intimate in-home maternity session. 

Jenny Yoo Serafina  Currently $260, and made to order. For the expecting mother who wants to go all out, I love that designer Jenny Yoo has recently released a maternity bridesmaid line, that could work beautifully for a maternity session! She has a shorter and longer option available, with a numerous variety of perfect color to choose from. I think Cashmere and Sterling Grey are my favorites!

Kennebunkport Maine Maternity Photographer Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n

My own additional tips that I personally tell my own expecting clients when planning the outfits for their maternity pictures:

  • Stay away from bright colors in the red & orange range, as they won’t translate into black and white very well. And I am ALL about the classic black and white portraits, as we well know! 
  • Look for fabrics that offer some sort of texture- whether it’s chiffon, linen, knit, or lace. Solid colors, especially solid black, or a solid fitting dark jersey material, can easily lose detail and look “blah” in the photographs.
  • A wrap can be your BEST friend. A textured wrap can add a feeling of coziness to the images, add posing variety, flatter your upper arm area if desired, provide a little extra outdoor warmth for the cooler months (which we have a lot of here in Maine!) AND give you something to do with your hands besides hug your belly. Posing tips for maternity will have to be a whole different blog post! 
  • When in doubt, ask yourself if you will want to see a framed black and white portrait in that outfit 20 or 50 years from now. Is it too trendy? Or does it speak of your timeless and elegant style?

Yarmouth Maine Maternity Photography by Maine Family Photographer Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n

I hope this post was helpful for you, whether you are an expecting mother who is planning her maternity portrait session, or if you are a maternity photographer yourself and looking for some recent findings to pass along to your clients.

A lot of these same tips for planning maternity session outfits is included in my printed guide that I provide all of my booked clients to help them plan their session in great detail. It is part of the custom experience of working with me! I have created a replica template for other portrait photographers to purchase and customize for their own clients, available in my resource shop, with much of my own written content even included. You can learn more about that HERE.

To learn more about booking your maternity portrait session with me, please inquire for details!

Yarmouth Maine Newborn Photography by Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n

Last month I met Baby S. for my first newborn session of the year, right here in Yarmouth Maine where I live. The portrait session was photographed in their beautiful home, and he was just the tiniest little thing! I so enjoyed getting to meet this wonderful family, and his proud three older siblings who were the absolute sweetest for their portraits together.

This newborn session was photographed with a combination of digital and medium format black and white film. Today I am sharing just a few of my favorites!  Yarmouth Maine Newborn Photography by Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n Yarmouth Maine Newborn Photography by Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n Yarmouth Maine Newborn Photography by Tiffany Farley, http://tiffanyfarley.comP i n
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To learn more about booking your Maine Newborn Portrait Session, or the popular Motherhood Collective, contact Tiffany HERE, or email directly at TIFFANY@TIFFANYFARLEY.COM

Tiffany is local to Yarmouth, Maine and is currently booking well into the year.

Tiffany Farley frequently travels for maternity, newborn, and family portrait sessions and has clients from Bar Harbor to San Francisco.  To find out details regarding her upcoming travel dates to a city near you, upcoming availability can be located in the sidebar to the right.  To book a custom travel session, please contact for more information.