Enough is Enough

July 21, 2014

It seems as though it has been forever since I have sat down to write a personal blog post.  So much of these past few months have been neck deep in the HUSTLE. Creating The Fount Collective, being in the busy portrait season and making sure all of my clients are well taken care of, and not to mention everything that comes with moving at the end of the summer and taking the business full time. The hustle, friends. I feel as though I have officially learned it’s true meaning.

If we are going to be completely and 100% honest this morning- the often scary-big gulp-deep breath kind of honest- I wanted this post to be written in the past tense. I wanted to to come out the other side and THEN sit and write about hard it WAS, and not how hard it IS.

HUSTLE.

It will get you likes. It will bring you followers and fist pumps. Instagram a planner by your laptop and tell the world you plan to work at your desk and hustle for the next 19 hours without a bathroom break, and you will have a crowd cheering you on. Frame the letters shining in gold foil and hang it on your wall. Sell it for $30. People will buy it. I have one in an online cart somewhere.

Hustle. Hustle. Hustle.

Image Credit | wework.com

Image Credit | wework.com

 

The hustle is not bad. The hustle is not wrong. In fact, I think it’s important. I think at times, even incredibly necessary. It has without a doubt gotten me where I am in business, and doors of opportunity have come my way because of it.  I don’t intend to quit the hustle.

But I just want some sort of proof that I am hustling for a destination. I mean, is the hustle ever enough? Do you ever reach the end and sit down? Reach the end and say it was worth it? Because I have been exhausted. I have barely had the free mental space to have a meaningful conversation. I have been walking around like a zombie most days trying to remember where it is that I am hustling to. It’s easy to forget you know. The reason for your own hustle. As my good friend Mary once said, you can look up and realize that you are checking off the list of someone else’s dreams and not your own.

There is an intentional, deep from your core kind of hustle that I need to find again. To redefine what hustle means to me and never again get caught up in looking to the left or to the right. To remember why I am building MY business and what kind of life I want to have. Because mine won’t look like yours. I look around at leaders in the industry who seem to have been hustling for years upon years. And it’s as if they are afraid to sit down, afraid to take a break, afraid to stop striving to be three steps ahead in fear of losing the momentum.

Friends I only want momentum if it’s taking me somewhere. Because I don’t want the hamster wheel life- a life that LOOKS like I am going somewhere, that LOOKS like I am the leader of the pack-when in reality if you stop you are right back where you started, and it was all for nothing.

We are constantly bombarded with this message that we are never doing enough, striving enough, being enough. I reached this place where I realized that what used to feel like a really successful day, now feels like it’s not enough. Because I didn’t edit in the car on my way home from a portrait session, or stay up all night long and deliver the edited images the next morning. Because I went for a walk which I really enjoy, instead of a workout at CrossFit or Pure Barre that would equal my car payment. Because I bought my healthy groceries but I didn’t buy them organic and local, or grow them in my garden. Because I bought new makeup that I really liked, but it wasn’t paraben free and now I will probably die because of it. Because I blogged two days a week instead of five like all the rockstar photographers do. Because I chose the park with the kids over getting my inbox to zero before noon.

In one downward spiraling swoop of a newsfeed I am reminded that if I am not careful I will join the hamster wheel.

But this morning I am declaring this truth, and this reminder. I say it right to myself.

Their hustle is not my hustle. Your hustle is not my hustle. I want to reach a destination. MY destination.

Enough IS enough.

This is an invitation to get off the hamster wheel and remember why you are doing what you are. Why you are working so hard. Why you are sacrificing the things that you are. Are you really going somewhere? Will it be worth your hustle?

Because what everyone else is doing on Social Media isn’t important. It isn’t YOUR life. And it isn’t MINE.

Like I said. I really wanted this post to be written in the past tense. But it’s not. It’s my today. It’s my right now. And you can fist pump or you can move on to something less authentic. But I am writing it just the same. Because I don’t know about you, but I need some more real in my days.

And that’s all I really have to say.

 

 

 

  1. Karly

    July 21st, 2014 at 11:13 am

    The hustle. The one that never ends.

    I don’t know my destination. I wish I did. Or at least how to figure it out.

    If I don’t keep running forward–non-stop hustling–I might not ever know.

  2. Stacey Windsor

    July 21st, 2014 at 11:46 am

    A huge AMEN! This has been on my heart lately too, but you said it way better than I could!

  3. Brenda

    July 21st, 2014 at 12:28 pm

    Girl you are speaking right to me today!! I completely agree with your statements about building your business … YOUR LIFE … the way you want it to be. Not because of how someone else’s business looks. Not because of how someone else’s life looks. Social media is good and bad and the bad can eat away at you. Making you loose your focus and your goals. Making you double guess yourself. Making you confused. It’s hard but important to write down what you want your life to look like, what you want your business be, and then work toward that how it best works for you. Sorry, your post really hit home on something that I have been thinking about for awhile. Keep doing your thing lady!!!

  4. Brenda

    July 21st, 2014 at 12:39 pm

    Girl you are speaking right to me today!! I completely agree with your statements about building your business … YOUR LIFE … the way you want it to be. Not because of how someone else’s business looks. Not because of how someone else’s life looks. Social media is good and bad and the bad can eat aaa at you. Making you loose your focus and your goals. Making you double guess yourself. Making you confused. It’s hard but important to write down what you want your life to look like, what you want your business to be, and then work toward that how it best works for you. Sorry, your post really hit home on something that I have been thinking about for awhile. Keep doing your thing lady!!!

  5. Tira J

    July 21st, 2014 at 1:02 pm

    Thank you for this post Tiffany! It was perfect in so many ways! I am thankful for you and your vulnerability.

  6. Beth Alon

    July 21st, 2014 at 2:02 pm

    Thank you so much for writing this. I have your site bookmarked on my computer, as well as others I admire, and I struggle everyday to not put my kids/husband and even myself last on my list just to try and get an ounce of “success” that you ladies have. I am not blogging regularly, not on instagram, and don’t even understand hashtags and get so wrapped up in that (and trying to figure out Google+) and then I realize that I am on a different path right now and that I cannot compare myself to others, especially when I don’t know their truths…maybe they are on the hamster wheel, too. So, thank you for being honest about your hustle!! Every single day I remind myself I need to be taking baby steps…there is no rush…I have 3 little ones and a wonderful husband and that is more important than Facebook likes any day of the week!

  7. s

    July 21st, 2014 at 2:14 pm

    This is just another reason why I love reading your blogs–YOUR AUTHENTICITY! Thanks for being real here. I needed this little reminder today of the hustle and I am sure I am not the only one to benefit. I wrote about you on my blog recently- check it out! Once again, thanks for your sharing your heart. Do it for the HUSTLE. Do it for YOU!

    Sincerely,
    S

  8. emily lapish

    July 21st, 2014 at 8:20 pm

    OH my GOODNESS yes. Yes to everything you just said. Once again, we are soul sisters. I love you.

  9. Rachel McCloud

    July 22nd, 2014 at 9:27 am

    Definitely needed this today. Thank you for sharing 🙂

  10. Lydia

    July 22nd, 2014 at 12:24 pm

    Thanks so much for posting this, especially as you’re going through it yourself! I feel like I need to write this on a post it and stick it on my computer as a daily reminder!

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